118 20 2617 https://www.exhibits.lgbtran.org/files/original/70212012d5e27cf774288bc508ce4381.jpg a0cd581bc671ba3233155b6a21f63ffc https://www.exhibits.lgbtran.org/files/original/e44f68555f6d38a2df985f5972fd18e5.jpg c8714a3153510b0458d3ed9205d90a3e Text A resource consisting primarily of words for reading. Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Text Any textual data included in the document The Guardian Manchester February 21 Letters to the Editor "A Quaker view of sex" Sir--We wish to say that we think the members of the Society of Friends who recently gave national publicity to their essay, "Towards a Quaker View of Sex," are muddled and mistaken. Their error does not lie in advocating greater compassion and deeper understanding in human relationships. But they are profoundly mistaken in suggesting, as they did in Sunday's television programme, that Christians should dispense with clear religious statements about morality,..the ideal of pre-marital chastity..with binding vows of marriage and fidelity. "Love," it was said, "cannot be confined to patterns." Perhaps not, but it easily deteriorates without them. The traditional patter can evolve and change without losing its ...authority and it remains relevant to an imperfect Christian society. We doubt the wisdom of kicking away the ladder (in spite of its steepness and narrowness) before we have grown wings.___Yours, etc. Robin and Elizabeth Hodgkin Abbotsholme School, Rocester, Uttoxeter, Staffordshire __________________________ The Observer March 3, 1963 Quaker Meetings Sir,--As an active Quaker, I would like to pay tribute to your very fair comment last Sunday on the controversy over the statement on sex and morality. As Quakers, some of us are finding ourselves in an unaccustomed and not very welcome limelight as a result of Press and B.B.C. publicity. People tend to half-read the report and regard us as representing something lax and immoral. Comments such as yours and in certain of the daily papers do a great deal to put the matter in correct perspective. When, however, Pendennis says that "Quakers will break their silence..." to discuss the new pamphlet, he seems to suggest that we normally have a kind of monastic vow of silence in our Meeting Houses. Quakers do, of course, meet in silent worship, but the silence is "broken" regularly as various Friends feel the call to stand up and minister or pray vocally. A completely silent meeting for worship is not unknown, but comparatively rare. While (in Middlesbrough at least) the new statement has certainly been a topic for after-worship discussion, I do not imagine that in our "400 Meeting Houses up and down the country" the pattern of worship has differed from the normal. Sydney E. Dexter Middlsbrough No authority Sir.--Booklets published by the Friends' Home Service Committee contain the views of individual Friends on a variety of subjects and are mainly used for study and discussion within the Society of Friends itself. They are not in any sense authoritative statements. A fundamental belief of Quakers is the ability of each individual; to communicate with and receive guidance directly from God. They therefore have no bishops or priests or the like who are accorded special authority to speak on behalf of the Society as a whole. The beliefs of the humblest Friend as to be accorded as much respect as those of "leading" Friends (as your writer calls them); and the procedure of the Society is in fact to send all matters of importance which are raised down to each Particular Meeting (local... [only fragments of the rest of the letter] Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Letters to Editor Description An account of the resource Letters by Quakers published in different newspapers reflect the diverse response by members of the Society. 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Text Any textual data included in the document Friends Home Service Committee Friends House Euston Road London N.W.1 20th February, 1963 TO: Members of the Executive & Finance Committee and the Working Group on Extension Matters. Dear Friend, After consultation with the Deputy Chairman of General Committee and the Chairman of the Executive Committee it has been decided to call a special meeting of the above two committees on Thursday, February 28th, at 5 p.m., in Room 37 at Friends House, to consider what responsibility we may have to help those embers of the Society who are perturbed by the publication of the essay, "Towards a Quaker View of Sex", and by the publicity it has aroused. The Chairman of the Literature Committee and the Chairman of the group of Friends responsible for the publication of the essay have also been invited to attend. As some Friends may have other previous engagements immediately before the meeting tea will be served at 5 p.m. We are sorry for this short notice, but we hope that as many members of the groups as possible will be able to attend. In case you have not seen the essay a copy is enclosed. Yours sincerely, George H. Gorman General Secretary The Friend March 8, 1963 Publications Procedure to Be Re-Examined The following minute was received from the executive Committee of the Friends Home Service Committee: "The Executive Committee of the Home Service Committee has met with a number of Friends connected with its literature and extension work and with the chairman of the group that prepared the essay Towards a Quaker View of Sex in an an endeavor to see whether anything helpful might be said to Meeting for Sufferings in face of the criticism levelled against the essay and the unhappiness which many Friends are feeling. We recognize that the publication of the essay under the imprint of this Committee gives rise to misunderstanding, but it has for many years been our practice to publish papers written by concerned Friends or groups of Friends and it was, therefore, natural for this particular group to approach the Committee. We on our part were glad, recognizing the depth of their concern, to undertake the publication and we feel that publication on any other basis would not have prevented confusion in the public mind. The clear statement that the essay does not embody the official view of the Society has been generally accepted in Press comments as well as in the television broadcast. We recognize also that the timing of the broadcast, which was initiated by the BBC, was unfortunate and that distress was caused to many Friends by its taking place before the essay was published. In light of this experience the Committee proposes to re-examine its policy in regard to its publications and the questions of publicity which arise in relation to them and will report to Meeting for Sufferings in due course if so desired. Meanwhile, we hope that Friends will read the essay carefully, recognising that it is the outcome of prayerful con- ___________________________ CENTRAL OFFICES OF THE SOCIETY OF FRIENDS FRIENDS HOUSE, EUSTON ROAD, LONDON, N.W. 1 To member of Meeting for Sufferings and Elders who regularly attend At a Meeting for Sufferings held in London 1st March 1963 Minute 6: "Towards a Quaker View of Sex" The attached Minute is received from the Home Service Committee, and Derek Crosfield has spoken to it. The Home Service Committee has from time to time issued pamphlets on subjects of interest to Friends and enquirers, and has not in general submitted these before publication to a representative body of Friends. The essay "Towards a Quaker View of Sex" is the work of a serious, informed and responsible group of Friends working under sincere concern; its publication by the Home Service Committee and the use of the word "Quaker" in the title have given the impression to many that the views of the group are the views of the Society. The publication has attracted immense publicity, some frivolous but much serious, including warm commendation and strong criticism. Many Friends have been deeply distressed by the publication in this way of so controversial an essay without adequate consultation, and by the resulting publicity. We accept the offer of the Home Service Committee to reconsider their procedure in sponsoring publications and to report to us at a later meeting. Stephen C. Morland Clerk this time Stephen Thorne (signature) Recording Clerk Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource FHSC Responds to Criticism Description An account of the resource Gorman responded quickly to criticism by calling a special meeting of the Friends Home Service Committee executive committee that released a statement (minute) that was received by the Meeting for Sufferings. Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived Reproduced by permission of<em> The Friend</em>, March 8, 1963, p. 271; and HSC Quaker Group on Homosexuality records, Friends House, London https://www.exhibits.lgbtran.org/files/original/1913314c9dfcc635e31044a9cba12e15.jpg 7a318257c6d6763409b22db07e6a4ace Text A resource consisting primarily of words for reading. Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Text Any textual data included in the document The Friend March 22, 1963 Radio Comment on "Towards a Quaker View" Listeners to "Christian Outlook" on the BBC's Network 3 on March 14 will have heard the understanding and discriminating review given there of TOWARDS A QUAKER VIEW OF SEX (Friends Home Service Committee, 3s. 6d.) The speaker was the Rev. Dr. Derrick S. Bailey, of Wells Cathedral, himself a well-known writer on sexual relationships. The review included a full summary of the contents of the essay. Dr. Bailey added his opinion that here was a pioneer contribution to Christian thinking; that if read as a whole and in a spirit of good will it could not fail to illuminate; that with one exception (the passage on "triangular relationships"--a momen of real confusion, he thought) accusations in the Press and elsewhere of "muddled thinking" appeared to be unfounded; and that there was no justification for the cry that here was condonation of a lowering of standards. On the contrary, the essay commended a personal search for the guidance of the Holy Spirit in place of legalistic system of tests of conformity to external rules. And if this might appear to some to legislate inadequeately for a largely non-Christian public, and to take too little account of considerations of public policy, it must be borne in mind that the essay addressed itself primarily to Christians, and more specifically to members of the Society of Friends. Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource D.S. Bailey Radio Commentary Description An account of the resource The March 22 issue of <em>The Friend</em> reported a favorable review of TQVOS on BBC radio by Dr. Derrick Sherwin Bailey, who had published the ground-breaking <em>Homosexuality and the Western Christian Tradition</em> in 1955. 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Text Any textual data included in the document The Friend February 22, 1963 "Towards a Quaker View on Television" For this viewer, one of the most striking things about "Meeting Point" on BBC Television last Sunday night, when Towards a Quaker View of Sex was discussed, was the attitude of the unnamed consultant psychiatrist who appeard in the programme with Kenneth Barnes and Anna Bidder under the chairmanship of Paul Ferris of The Observer. To some extent the course of the discussion was predictable. It ws to be expected--and faith--enough that Paul Ferris should select some of the more controversial points of the essay and invite Anna Bidder and Kenneth Barnes to justify to expand them. On behalf, as it were, of orthodox morality, he asked the awkward (and occasionally irritating) questions that are best designed to draw out the "victims" in such programmes. It was to be expecte4d, too, that Kenneth Barnes and Anna Bidder would stick firmly and fearlessly to their views and expound them soberly and well. The unknown quantity was the unnamed psychiatrist; and many Friends must have been gratified, and some others perhaps reassured, to hear him speak highly of the essay. That a group, however unofficial, of any religious body should produce such a document had clearly impressed him. "Most encouraging" and "extremely valuable" were among the words he applied to it. Kenneth Barnes explained at the beginning of the programme that he and Anna Bidder were speaking for themselves and could not commit the Society. Many listeners presumably would disagree strongly with some or much of what was said, but every thoughtful viewer must, one feels sure, have been impressed by the forthrightness and thoughtful sincerity of our Friends who said it. The broadcast will have increased, not diminished, in many home the respect in which the society is held. C.H. The essay had a good press, in the sense that it was given a great deal of space in the newspaperes. The authors must indeed have been encouraged by the attention given to it by the more responsible papers. The Observer last Sunday gave rather more than a column to an account which, after quotations from the report, included a brief interview with Anna Bidder and quoted the reaction of a number of Churchmen. The Rev. John Huxtable, Principal of New College, London, was quoted as saying that he thought the eesay "too muddle-headed to do any real good" and that "most Quakers I know are likely to be pretty scandalised by it." The pamphlet was welcomed by the Archdeacon of London, the Ven. George Appleton, although he felt that the section dealing with the "triangular situation" was ambiguous. The Sunday Times gave a column summary to the repirt, but spoiled some fair and objective treatment by publication of a little article entitled "The Two Voices of the Quakers" which, though perhaps intended to be complimentary, gave a somewhat curious impression of Quakerism and Friends' ways of conducting business. Friends will, no doubt, have realised that it was based upon a reporter's misunderstanding of a conversation by telephone with George Gorman (in which it was made quite clear that the essay would not be the subject of discussion at the forthcoming Yearly Meeting). Many of the ideas and expressions in the article were obviously not those that an experienced Friend would hold or use of the Society. The Guardian last Monday gave about 500 words to the essay; The Times rather less. The Daily Mail, in addition to a half column summary, made the pamphlet the subject of its front-page column of "Comment". The comment was not profound. The following day the Mail had a cartoon by Emmwood, and an article by Monica Furlong, "Why I'm on the Side of the Quakers," in which the pamphlet was strongly defended. Almost without exception these reports contained an explanation that the essay was the work of an unofficial group of Friends and not an official statement of the Society. This accorded with a prefatory note in the pamphlet itself, which states: The Literature Committee of the Friends Home Service Committee has been glad to publish Towards a Quaker View of Sex for the group of Friends which prepared it, as a contribution to thought on an important subject. The views expressed are those of the authors, and do not necessarily reflect the attitude of the Friends Home Service Committee or of the Religious Society of Friends." Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource The Friend 22 Feb 1963 Description An account of the resource <em>The Friend</em> published this commentary on the appearance of Barnes and Bidder on BBC television and on the first reviews by major newspapers. Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived Reproduced by permission of<em> The Friend</em>, February 22, 1963, pp. 215-16. https://www.exhibits.lgbtran.org/files/original/7427f4e9865c43bb232a93f85d422db3.jpg e59ca73f1dbbc77d60e9b2271ec9988b https://www.exhibits.lgbtran.org/files/original/d2186534da76857d7ef44a2ebe7d0b5e.jpg 130241c3609b16d97132e81ff0d53fba Text A resource consisting primarily of words for reading. Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Text Any textual data included in the document The Joseph Rowntree Charitable Trust Beverley House Shipton Road York 22nd March, 1963 Keith Wedmore, Stoneleigh, Sheerwater Avenue, West Byfleet, Surrey Dear Keith Wedmore, TOWARDS A QUAKER VIEW OF SEX Many thanks for your kind letter of the 12th instant. The parcel of copies of the booklet arrived safely and they have been suitably distributed to the J.R.S. Trustees and others. Some time was spent on this at a Trust meeting held last Saturday and without exception members of the Trust were glad that this work ad been done and had been put into print. I cannot say that there were no reservations, but such as there were were much more to do with procedure than content and none was serious. There was some discussion as to "what next." A good deal of ground has been covered or, it could be said, uncovered and whilst it was rather questioned whether the same group would wish to take various aspects of the study further or deeper, there was the hope here that somebody might. Do you happen to know the mind of the group on this and whether there are in fact either plans or hopes of a follow-up or supplementary study. In the event, I think that this Trust would be glad to give a hand were some further modest help needed. With all good wishes. Yours sincerely, Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Rowntree Trust letter Description An account of the resource The Joseph Rowntree Trust, which provided funding for the TQVOS group, sent a letter to Wedmore that expressed appreciation for copies of the booklet that were given to all of the Trustees and noted their positive response. The Trust expressed interest in supporting further work. Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived Keith Wedmore Papers https://www.exhibits.lgbtran.org/files/original/3eee77e0c889e3ba089925c775c953f0.pdf ef479f75ca23e6014f8f8c519e96dea2 Still Image A static visual representation. Examples include paintings, drawings, graphic designs, plans and maps. Recommended best practice is to assign the type Text to images of textual materials. Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Towards a Quaker View of Sex, 1964 Description An account of the resource The first revised edition (1964) of the TQVOS pamphlet https://www.exhibits.lgbtran.org/files/original/5e9606b9beefab80b1c2f708af57091d.pdf 9f4f835b242979606ca6add7225742f7 Text A resource consisting primarily of words for reading. Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Text Any textual data included in the document Dialogue January, 1964 Sex is an explosive subject whenever it is discussed. It is particularly explosive for college students. This report attempts to analyze sexual morality objectively and understandingly. Whiel many think about sex, rarely do they individually attempt to analyze it in moral terms. There is a morality to human actions and we must attempt to discover what it is for sex. To stimulate this search, we reprint this report which will challenge the beliefs of many. We want to change; we do want thought. But, be careful of rationalization. Sex is a psychological drive so strong as to easily lead to self-deception, which either rejects it or succumbs to it. Anyone who will use this article as an excuse for sexual license is a fool who ignores an opportunity to attempt to realistically come to terms with himself and perverts the search for insight and understanding into a tool of his own whim. The Editors These exerpts are taken from a report published by the British Society of Friends which represented solely the views of the individual members of The Friends who prepared this statement. [This article contains lengthy excerpts from Towards a Quaker View of Sex.] DIALOGUE January, 1964 Vol. Iv., No. 1 DIALOGUE Dialogue is a journal of significant discussion pledged to stimulate a free clash of opinion. By reflecting thought of all persuasions, we are seeking to challenge the intellect and motivate active social concern. editor-in-chief: Brian Olmstead managing editor: Adam J. Sorkin associatge editors: Judith L. Bourne, Richard Greenblatt, Chris Kinder, Stephen LeRoy, Fred M. Rosen, Nancy Rosen art editor: Amy Vladeck cover design: Peter Salwen first wood cut: Joel Perlman second wood cut: Forrest German advisor: William Rogers Dialogue is published by the education are of the Cornell United Religious Work. Opinions expressed in signed articles do not necessarily reflect the views of the editors nor does any comment necessarily represent that position of CURW. Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Excerpts in Dialogue journal Jan 1964 Description An account of the resource The journal Dialogue, published by Cornell United Religious Work, published significant excerpts from the study in its January 1964 issue. These excepts focused on sexual practice and morality; homosexuality largely ignored, Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived HSC Quaker Group on Homosexuality records, Friends House, London https://www.exhibits.lgbtran.org/files/original/74904ee639b2127d5cc74e3bd8c88b7b.pdf 5cba4cf5b23b6be05c9b8f5fccc57e49 Text A resource consisting primarily of words for reading. Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Text Any textual data included in the document Mrs. Harrop Freeman 108 Needham Place, Ithaca, New York January 18, 1964 Dear Friends: We thought that you might be interested in what the CURW (Cornell United Religious Work--the inter-faith organization at Cornell University) has done with "The Quaker View of Sex," and the comment from the daily paper published by the students. The Friends Meeting here has also have a discussion group which has considered the pamphlet. We do a great deal of pre-marriage and marriage counseling ourselves and have found the pamphlet most helpful in encouraging young people (and older ones as well) to think out a code of moral and spiritual approach to the subject of sex. Cordially, Harrop & Ruth Freeman Cornell Daily Sun 1/17/64 Dialogue Toward a New Morality by R.V. Denenberg ",,,In subscribing to a moral code, some of which is no longer accepts, society merits the charge of hypocrisy..." With this assumption a group of British Friends set off "Toward a Quaker View of Sex," in the current Dialogue's featured article. The issue, as the Quakers discuss it, is far from the "explosive subject" that the magazine's editors proclaim it to be. It is, rather, an eminently thoughtful and disarmingly frank consideration of the ethical, religious and psychological weakness of what we have some to call "conventional morality." The very currency of that term suggests that we are already way ahead of the Friends in assuming a detached a relativistic attitude toward an ossified sexual code, but underlying so much of the au courant criticism is a marked scorn for the religious bases of sexual mores. The significant of the Friend's essay is that is represents the search of profoundly religious men of new standards, standards which would embody Christian ideals, rather than hollow, lip-served precepts. They express their attitude with words whose tone conveys the gentleness and compassion of the Quaker faith: "It is the awareness that the traditional code, in itself, does not come from the heart; for the great majority of men and women it has no roots in feeling or true conviction. We have been seeking a morality that will indeed have its roots in the depths of our being and in our awareness of the true needs of our fellows." They find society plagued by sexual difficulties for which "a distorted Christianity must bear some of the blame," and hence they are led to an empiricism which asks if homosexuality is really unnatural or pre-marital intercourse always sinful. In the process they develop a humane and undogmatic concept of sin which takes exploitation of one person by another as its criterion. They founder, however, in attempting a universal morality to replace the conventional one. Trying to avoid advocating license, they stipulate that some "external morality" is necessary to govern sexual relationships, but after their stress upon individual needs, the insistance up an essentially social code to regulate private relationships which do not affect the community in any extend seems strangely out of keeping. A reading of their essay, nevertheless, remains a moving and challenging experience. Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Freeman letter & Cornell Daily Sun article Description An account of the resource Ruth Freeman, from Cornell United Religious Work, sent a brief letter with a copy of an article from the <em>Cornell Daily Sun</em> as well as a copy of a review in their <em>Dialogue</em> magazine (see below). Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived HSC Quaker Group on Homosexuality records, Friends House, London https://www.exhibits.lgbtran.org/files/original/c50e668bd324af6aae151a747db7a64b.pdf cac25dfb0d2a1363862ee938996b8637 Text A resource consisting primarily of words for reading. Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Text Any textual data included in the document Sermon of the Month First Unitarian Church of Los Angeles Stephen H. Fritchman, Minister The Quakers Break the Taboo on Sex A Book Review Sermon of TOWARD A QUAKER VIEW OF SEX Edited by Alastair Heron Delivered September 29, 1963 by Stephen H. Fritchman Dr. Spock has an article in this month's REDBOOK Magazine on "How My Thinking Has Changed". Anyone hearing my first sermons in the year 1920 in Craryville, New York and now listening to what I shall say this morning might suggest that I too write an article on "How My Thinking Has Changed." One footnote to this sermon is in order. There is nothing original in today's address, however startling some of the content may be. I have been reading and thinking about the Sexual Revolution of the Twentieth Century for many years, and have discussed various aspects of it in addresses on marriage, the family, and our inter-personal relations, although I did not always label the contents with the three letter word. I am told that a few years ago, when I used the word "sex" in a morning sermon, one woman rose up and departed, and has only now, many years later, started to resume attendance at services. I trust her thinking has changed along with Dr. Spock's, since I intend to use the word sex fairly often again this morning, and if this fact disturbs anyone, this might be a good time for him or her to go over to Channing Hall for a premature cup of coffee. Let me also, at this moment, offer my thanks and give the proper credits to the Rev. John Morgan, our Minister in Toronto; to the editors of LOOK Magazine for their September 24th issue which is mentioned in today's Order of Service, and to the British Quakers for their recent booklets, Toward a Quaker View of Sex. Several copies of this hard-to-get book are now on our book table, but probably will not be by one o'clock today. This excellent publication is indeed the Quaker view of sex expressed by an esteemed group of British Quakers--anthropologists, social workers, psychiatrists, and teachers, but it is not the view of sex of the Quaker girls I dated in greater Philadelphia in the early nineteen-twenties, not of their fathers, nor of their grandfathers. All of which is to say that the Twentieth Century has seen many revolutions: political and economic in Russia, China and Cuba; racial, as in the United States and Africa today, and sexual as everyone I know about--Asia, Africa, Europe, South American, and most familiarly, the United States and Canada. Since I have found sex to be far more controversial than politics in this church over the years, allow me to say to first-time visitors that in a Unitarian church the views of the pulpit are not necessarily those of the congregation, nor are all of the views quoted necessarily shared by the speaker as his own. This ought to be obvious, but I find it needs to be said fairly often, since I sometimes learn that I have been quoted as supporting a large number of things that I don't support, such as taking LSD for kicks, or simultaneous polygamy, or playing the slot machines at Las Vegas or believing that the Los Angeles Dodgers have a supernatural guarantee of winning the World Series. There have been quite a number of Unitarian sermons around the continent in recent months on the subject of the Twentieth Century sexual revolution, some of them extremely well done. The reason is clear. The long, long silence about matters dealing with relations between the sexes has been broken, even in church. The price of silence during a revolutionary period has been found too high, in terms of human welfare. The Rev. John Mordan, one of the most unequivocating ministers in our denomination, said it well, "A careful silence about 'sex' is still maintained between many adults and teen-agers. Those adults who publicly break the silence with unconventional opinions, whether teachers or commentators, risk attracting the wrath of the especially fearful. But surely teen-agers deserve better from adults than private panic and censorship." A brilliant writer for MacLean's Magazine in Canada, Pierre Breton, whose column I quoted to our College Center group of this church last June as expressing the moral issues of the changing sex ethic, was dropped from the magazine's staff because of reader protest. He had been neither flippant nor sensational, simply honest and outspoken. The pinched nerve of conscience created a loud explosion, and MacLean's let him go. Silence again took over. The subject of sexual mores simply cannot be discussed in a vacuum, separate from other human problems. Let me, therefore, call your attention for a moment to the special issue of LOOK magazine for September 24, on "Morality USA" by Robert Moskin, LOOK's senior editor. Allow me to quote several sentences of this essay by Mr. Moskin: "Each of us must make difficult moral decisions. We are witnessing the end of the old morality. In our world of jet travel, nuclear power and fragmented families, conditions are changing so fast that the established moral guide-lines have been yanked from our hands. No single authority rules our conduct. No church lays down the moral law for all. No tribal customs or taboos define the limits of our immoralities. We are free to be prejudiced or promiscuous, to cheat or to chisel. We are left floundering in a money-motivated, sex-obsessed, big-city dominated society. We must figure out for ourselves how to apply the traditional moral principles to the problems of our time." "Out of today's moral confusion will come either a society of license and brutality, or, if we are wise and lucky, a new moral code based on the realities of a new world." Two examples amongst many in Mr. Moskin's articles illustrates for me the reality of the new moral challenge. He quotes Dr. J. Robert Oppenheimer's phrasing of the dilemma "Thou shalt not kill, but a general says we can kill 400 million people." His second illustration refers to the space marathon to the moon. He asks, "Should we race the Russians to the moon, or spend the same talent and money fighting cancer and mental illness? The space race compares less to Columbus' voyages than to the vainglorious building of the pyramids. To race the Russians to the moon and to let our old people live on almost nothing is immoral. The astronauts become the new gladiators." (I might way that President Kennedy's proposal at the United Nations to have the Russians and Americans pool their efforts in this lunar space venture does not necessarily alter the immorality of the enterprise, as sick and hungry Americans and sick and hungry Russians would probably agree." It is, however, on the subject of the sexual revolution that I found Mr. Moskin especially cogent. Listen to his opening words on this subject," American society no longer is accepting the Christian morality of sexual life--that sex should not be outside of marriage. Divorce is completely accepted; freedom of sexual intercourse between young men and women is fully accepted." Professor Lester Kirkendall of Oregon State College is quoted by Mr. Moskin, "There is much more youthful discussion of sex because the young people are trying to work out for themselves a new sexual code. There is much more pre-marital sexual experience, but our young people are not sex-obsessed. Our culture is." I certainly would agreed with Dr. Kirkendall from my talks with students at Grinnell College, at Reed College, and from our own Los Angeles schools and colleges. Many of them come from liberal homes where, they tell me, silence on sex ethics is monumental, and they do not exempt the churches from this blackout of helpful guidance and discussion. They are more serious than many of their elders about sexual matters, far more honest about their practices, and very eager to create a self-imposed discipline of ethos of sex that will produce a durable as well as a happy marriage. One divorce out of every four marriages does not assure these young people that all wisdom lies with the older generation. "The greatest change in sexual morality," Dr. Kirkendall points out, "is with young women. Many parents who do not always seem to know it are pushing their daughters into earlier sexual activity. Then they are appalled when those daughters get into difficulties. It is a distorted society morally that gives sixteen-year-olds automobiles to drive, provides them with opportunities to go out with the opposite sex, but does not teach them anything about sex or contraception. By the time they are in their teens they move very close to a full physical relationship. Many a girl feels extremely pressured to demonstrate that she has the kind of attractiveness that is going to satisfy a boy. Mrs. Katherine Oettinger, Chief of the U.S. Children's Bureau, says, "We are often too lax about situations where experimentation goes on--the business of early dating, allowing youngsters so much freedom, sometimes promoting a boyfriend at all costs. The youngsters who are unsophisticated have babies and are punished. The number of illegitimate births has tripled since 1940." Dr. Milten Senn at Yale's Child Study Center reports that gifts of twelve and thirteen, from all kinds of families, are dropping out of school because of pregnancies. Premarital pregnancy is now involved in 85% of all marriages in which the partners are high school students. As Dr. Kirkendall has noted, "Parents go along with Twentieth Century attitudes until the girl gets pregnant, then Nineteenth Century morality comes into play," and he then states, regarding college students, "A college should not make a rule that chastity should be the rule, because then you have to think if an act has or has not been performed, in order to determine whether a student is virtuous or not. Rather than being concerned whether an act has been performed, I should like to be concerned that we use all our powers and capacities with responsible concern for others." It is this last phrase of Dr. Kirkendall which I should like to stress. "This," he emphasizes, "is not permissiveness, because relationships have rules." He then states, "I'm more fearful about our inability to handle our aggressive and hostile impulses that our sexual impulses. You can use sex i n a hostile way just as you use a bludgeon." He adds, with telling force, "Our moral confusion over sex is not limited to the young. As long as the adults focus on the youth they don't have to look at themselves. Sex is essentially an adult problem. When a person uses sex in marriage to punish, control or manipulate, this becomes immorality too." I agree fully with the marriage experts who find that the crux of the sex problems in marriage is one of communication, or its absence. Sex all to often is used in exploitation of the partner. Partly as a result of this adult failure in sexual communication our last census reports almost two million divorced women in this country and thirteen million children who belong to broken homes. We certainly shall not achieve a satisfying sexual morality in our new age of science and the growing equality of men and women until we face directly the need for true communication between men and women, and face the costliness of sexual exploitation. We certainly will not find a mature sexual morality through silence between partners, or between parents and the children. Meeting the sadness, frustration and anger of many children of miserable inadequate marriages is about the hardest experience I have to accept in my ministry. Little wonder these children grow up resolved to find another pattern than the one they have seen or heard at firsthand. There is a prevailing ignorance about sex needs, habits and practices in our present-day world, in spite of a multi-million-dollar exploitation of sex by commercial advertising, and an enormous amount of conversation on the subject, with knowing references to Ovid, Rabelais, and Dr. Kinsey. My colleagues, Rev. A. Phillip Hewett of Vancouver, British Columbia, recently preached a sermon, Sexual Conduct: A Quaker Assessment in which he declared: "A member of this congregation made headlines a few days ago by pointing out that in spite of our obsession with sex there is an appalling degree of ignorance on this subject. That too is part of our inheritance in this particular culture. So also are the veiled allusions and misunderstanding which deny any attempt to cope intelligently with these matters. You will have read in the newspapers a report, no doubt grossly distorted as newspaper reports usually area, of what Dean McCrae is alleged to have said about the preoccupation of the girl students at the University of British Columbia. From the comments on this statement it is quite obvious that in the minds of some people a preoccupation with sex means a continuous orgy of sexual promiscuity. Such confusions have their comic side, like that of the man who was filling our a form with name, address, age, etc., and when he came to 'sex' he wrote 'occasionally.'" One of the most unexpected sources of insight, in my studies, was a little book issued recently by the British Quakers, entitled "Toward a Quaker View of Sex. I wish to say only enough today to read it in its entirety. The Unitarians and Universalists would do well to prepare as frank and as realistic a publication themselves. The origins of the Quaker study were the problems raised by young Quaker students faced with homosexual difficulties, who came to older Quakers for help and guidance. It was soon apparent that the Society of Friends, the actual name of the religious movement, had very little to say to people in sexual difficulties--homosexual or heterosexual. A group of Quakers from their own schools, some in social work, some in psychiatry, some in marriage and parent organizations, decided to make study in order to know what could effectively say, especially to homosexuals, who found society condemned their feelings and who also found themselves victimized, blackmailed, and sometimes imprisoned. But the advising group soon found that the study of homosexuality and its moral problems could not be divorced from a survey of the whole field of sexual activity. Hence the final character of the book. As the introduction states, "We realized there was much needless suffering and human failure which we would like to relieve, and that in subscribing to a moral code, some of which we no longer accept, society merits the charge of hypocrisy, and its authority is thereby weakened. The insincerity of the sexual moral code may well be a cause of the widespread contempt of the younger generation for society's rules and prohibitions generally." The editors then tell us, in this same British understatement and unimpassioned prose (which has great merit in discussing often-avoided problems) that these appear to be the developments we are faced with today, "1. A great increase in adolescent sexual intimacy. 2. An increase in transient pre-marital intimacies generally. It is fairly common in both young men and women, with high standards of general conduct and integrity, to have one or two love affairs, involving intercourse, before they find he person they will ultimately marry." (I would insert here that there is not a Unitarian minister in this country who does not know this to be true.) The Quaker study continues, "3. It is even more common for those who intend to marry to have sexual intercourse before the ceremony. This is true, probably, of the majority of young people in all classes of society, including those who often have a deep sense of responsibility. 4. The incidence of extra-marital intercourse is great, but it is not possible to estimate whether there is an increase. There are many instances which do not lead to divorce or obvious harm, and which are kept secret." The editors then add, "The central concept of sexual morality in Christian countries in the integrity of the family. Most people, religious or otherwise, in our own or other countries, would agree that the family as a social unit should be safeguarded, and sexual practices that threaten its stability be vigorously discouraged." Immediately after setting this Christian Quaker goal the writers of the pamphlet state what I have seen in no church publication during my entire ministry, and the honest and humility of the Quakers once again impress me. They say, "Over long periods of history, illegitimate children in Christian countries have been shockingly treated compared with their counterparts in a polygamous African community. A Christian pattern has evolved which is most cruel to those outside its pattern. Christian parents have subjected their children to barbarous punishments and created conditions which were defensive, restricted and inhibited, and not in any way a source for 'the abundant life.' Sexual problems are infinitely more common than is realized, and the isolation of the individual, arising from society's repressive outlook toward the sexually troubled, is more apparent than real. This still repressive and inhibited outlook towards sex, whether heterosexual or homosexual, has brought serious difficulties to students of human behavior." The editors then points out what you and I in this country also know to be true, that "a repressive outlook has invested a normal function of men with guilt, mystery and ignorance. It has devalued the sexual currency to the level of sensationalism and pornography. When one considers the universality of the sexual drive, it is appalling how little understand there is of its origins, manifestations and possibilities for human happiness. Sexual behavior and moral outlook have much more to do with upbringing and prevailing cultural beliefs than most people realize. Only now are adults, as well as students in our schools, learning about other human communities of the past and present." The sacrosanct character of our professed sexual mores is now being weighed by thoughtful people who have studies some anthropology and literature previously hidden or unknown. Western man in the Twentieth Century has a great deal to learn from other cultures about challenging and employing the sexual drives of human nature. It took me at least thirty years to identify the astigmatisms of St. Paul and St. Augustine on the sex e3thic, to say nothing of the rigidity and intolerance of the ancient Hebrews. The fact that the Jews were often advanced in their ethical insights does not mean that they always were. Our Quaker friends then say what some Unitarians are now saying, "Marriage is to be taken seriously, but not always in grim earnest; its problems take perspective from fun, adventure and fulfillment, and joy and sorrow are mingled together. For some there is a monogamy so entire that no other love ever touches it; but others fall in love time and again, and most learn to make rickes of their affections without destroying their marriages or their friends. Let us thank God for what we share, which enables us to understand, and for the infinite variety in which each marriage stands alone." The above statement has disturbed some Quakers, and others, but it has the virtue of candor and of facing the facts that exist, and it is an effort to stress communication between the sexes without harsh moral judgements which end all understanding. The Quakers, in this book of theirs and in much general practice, show little enthusiasm for the ancient Christian habit of laying down strict rules of moral conduct and then being unhumanly intolerant of all who break those rules. Those who wrote this book go further. They say that sexuality looked at dispassionately is neither good not edit; it is a fact of nature. They emphasize that we need to avoid the judgemental attitude so common this area of sex, and to do a little more understanding. The Quakers seek to explore the true meaning of having a loving relationship, in or out of wedlock. They stress the need for warmth and intimacy, for open-heartedness and overwhelming generosity of hand and spirit. Loving involves a commitment to the other person, involving that person's life. We must go beyond the sociability of modern life to commitment and concern. We need to understand human energy, creative powers, and the need for sharing. Such attitudes will project young and old from crass exploitation and what I would call "Profumism", or the marketing impulse in sexual relations--whether or not money changes hands. If some would say that the Quakers are simply blessing "free love" and promiscuity, they know the human psyche very little. I might say here what my colleague, Rev. John Morgan of Toronto, said in his recent sermon, "I have long since concluded that in our society there is probably very little free love. It is a very hard thing for people to love freely in this culture--there is always a price, psychological and social." The Rev. Morgan's development of his ideas proved enlightening to me and I hope you will find them so. "We are not in the Garden of Eden. We are a complex race of people with the imprint of a long history in our spirits. Sexual actions stir us far below the level of consciousness, and may do more than we know to shape our future. There is an almost overwhelming urge throughout society towards the trivializing of sexual actions and the separating of them from the rest of life. A young doctor whose whole working life is given to a preparation for the most responsible of careers may think it all right to propose 'going to bed' to a nurse he has only just met and whose surname is unknown to him. We think it probable that to use one's capacity for loving in a relationship that is personally so tenuous is to reduce ultimately one's capacity for any depth of feeling or commitment, for in many such liaisons there is a deliberate intention to steer clear of being involved, to have fun without commitment. "We have been unable to avoid the continued challenge of this question: 'When is it right to have sexual intercourse, if it is not to be wholly confined to marriage?' Every counsellor will have to face it. He may himself believe that it should be confined to marriage; if so, he must say so quietly and humbly while entering with understanding into the problem of his questioner who is less sure that one rule meets all cases. Counsellors--and parents--do well to hesitate before passing judgement... "When as a group we face the question as to when it is right for intercourse to take place, we find it easier to feel sure when it should not take place. First we feel impelled to say something like this: that it should not happen until the partners have come to know each other so well that the sexual contact becomes a consummation, a deeply meaningful total expression of a friendship in which each has accepted the other's reality and shared the other's interests. Could we may also that at least in spirit each should be committed to the other--should be open to the other in heart and mind? This would mean that each cared deeply about what might happen to the other and would do everything possible to meet the other's needs and lessen any suffering that had to be faced. It would mean a willingness to accept responsibility and some fore-knowledge of what responsibility implied." The Quaker develop the limitations of any religion or church that casts people out for their failure to meet the requirements of the moral code, or who are deviants from norms in things sexual. It is the lack of love in early years in the family and beyond it that mutilates and destroys so many lives. We know that this lack if mentally destructive as well. Many of the aberrations we deplore in other people's sexual behavior are of our making, and we never know it! The Quaker booklet goes on to discuss at some length the meaning of normal sexual development, the realities of adolescence, the phenomenon of masturbation, the very problems of the single man and woman, the sexual difficulties and opportunities of married life in later years, and the particular issues confronting the homosexual. The information about homosexuality in other cultures, past and present, learned from the anthopologist, is present without special pleading but with genuine sympathy. The sexual needs of children are discussed with a simplicity I have not encountered outside of technical studies and textbooks. The Oedipus and the Electra situations are defined in a way that the average reader can understand without a course in Greek literature or through advanced psychoanalysis. Let this suffice for a brief sermon review. What are we to conclude? Permit me to say, as we come to the end of our discussion, that there is need for far more discussion of these problems in our own churches than has been realized. Parents, teachers, ministers, doctors, young people as well as older members and friends, have contributed to the atmosphere of silence, and to the false assumption that we already possess an agreed-upon sexual morality in our country, or even in the liberal church. It is not so! And by our failure to discuss these matters we have failed to help parents and their children. We have failed to help young men and women who are having real problems in their marriages. One reason why our trustees set up our Counseling Service last year was a recognition of this fact. And the Service is being used. I strongly suspect that none of us has a perfect score in our handling of sexual ethics. If this is so, we should not expect a perfect score from our teen-agers or our college youth. We are fallibly human beings trying, I hope, to do our best in a revolutionary situation; trying to retain the best of the past, and to shape a morality that does justice to human nature and to our capacities to achieve the good life. It surely not come by silence, or by ignoring difficult issues. We need courage, not hospitality. We need wisdom which comes through listening to shoe we respect, and above all we must learn that there is never just one right answer. From that knowledge we can hope for some progress--in our own lives and those of our children. (Copies of Towards a Quaker View of Sex are available from the First Unitarian Church of Los Angeles, 2936 West Eighth Street, Los Angeles 5, California @ $.85.) Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. 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Text Any textual data included in the document Christianity & Crisis, October 14, 1963 pp. 175-79 A Look at the Quaker Report: On Taking Sex Seriously by Tom F. Driver Headlines were made in England last winter by the publication of a 75-page pamphlet titled "Towards a Quaker View of Sex" (Friends Book Store, 302 Arch St., Philadelphia 4, Pa., $.75) Of all the revolutions through which nowadays we are passing, the revolution in sexual mores is one that receives the least thought. I do not mean that it gets the least attention but that the attention it gets is least informed by objective and radical thinking. The Quaker pamphlet deserves the critic's praise and the public's reading because it is one of the few recent documents written by Christians that attempts to look at sex dispassionately and at human beings compassionately. The group that prepared the statement proceeded on the honest Quaker assumption that Christian ethics must be founded primarily upon conscience, not primarily upon law sacred or secular, and they have spoken conscientiously. As a result, their conclusions are very liberal with respect to the letter of the law. A society that finds much of its sexual pleasure in breaking the received code cannot help, therefore, giving headlines to a statement by Christians that puts the ultimacy of that code in question. The pamphlet is not an official statement of the Religious Society of Friends in Great Britain. It is the result of a six-year study carried out by 11 individuals, six of them elders in the Society. Their discussions began in response to problems of homosexuality "brought by young Quaker students...who came to older Friends for help and guidance." The group discovered that one type of sexual problem could not be clearly seen apart from other types: "a few pieces of the jigsaw puzzle could not be identified without the whole picture." Thus the pamphlet includes an "Introduction and Basic Assumptions" and chapters on "Normal Sexual Development," "Homosexuality" (both male and female), a call for a "New Morality" and "A Word of Counsel to Counselors." There are also appendices, a glossary and a book list. The reader looking for surprises may find them. For instance, we read the following about triangular heterosexual relations: This is too often thought of as a wholy destructive and irresponsible relationship...Not sufficient recognition can and often does not arise in which all three persons behave responsibly...It is worth noting that in the two-woman/one-man situation, the very happiness of the marriage may attract a young girl or a sensitive and responsible woman...By the same token, it could surely help a nervous youngster to call in love with a happily married woman. (p. 20) On homosexuality the group supports the recommendation of the 1957 Wolfenden Report that such acts between consenting adults is private should no longer be a criminal offense. It follows the Bishop of Woolwich in his 1962 appeal for reform of "our utterly medieval treatment of homosexuals," which called a peculiarly odious piece of English hypocrisy." The group adds: Surely it is the nature and quality of a relationship that matters: one must not judge it by its outward appearance but by its inner worth. Homosexual affectation can be as selfless as heterosexual affection, and therefore we cannot see that it is in some way morally worse." (p. 36) In its section on a needed "new morality," the group writes: Nothing that has come to light in the course of our studies has altered the conviction that came to us when we began to examine the actual experiences of people--the conviction that love cannot be confined to a pattern. The waywardness of love is part of its nature, and this is both its glory and its tragedy. If love did not tend to leap every barrier, if it could be tamed, it would not be the tremendous creative power we know it so be and want it to be. (p. 39) The utterances of the group on particular problems, such as those cited, are courageous and debatable. What interests me, however, is the basic assumption that gave rise to them. This assumption is that the cardinal ethical virtue of responsibility can be made the norm for regulating and judging sexual behavior. Sexual acts are thus to be evaluated by whether they express and encourage the responsible behavior of the whole person, negatively by whether they involve exploitation. Using this as its criterion, the group finds no reason to condemn premarital, extramarital or homosexual relations as such. Sexuality, regarded objectively, is "neither good nor evil." The Christian sees it as "a glorious gift of God," which can indeed be misused; but misuse is not synonymous with infringement of the moral code, not even when that code is called Christian and seems to have biblical sanction. "It seemed to us that morals, like the Sabbath, were made for man, not man for morals..." I am going to criticize this approach, but I would like first to say that the group's obvious concern for "what is happening to people, what they are seeking to express, what motivations and intentions they are satisfying, what fruits, good or bad, they are harvesting" is of great importance and commends their report to every person who is seeking light on sexual ethics in our time. Law and Gospel The issue for Christian ethics raised by the pamphlet is a particular case of the relation of Law and Gospel. The Friends group was right to see that in our present cultural situation it is not longer sufficient to reiterate traditional standards, not even if this is combined with a Christian compassion for the offender. For the problem is that the traditional standards are no longer felt by the society to be derived from a genuine authority. This is so not only because of the alienation of the multitudes from the Church but also because within the Church--among pastor and other counselors--there is a widespread feeling that to insist upon "pure" sexual behavior may lead to neglect of "weightier matters," may jeopardize the communications of that profounder thing, man's freedom in Christ. This feeling may not be based upon the deepest sort of insight, but it is based upon one accurate opinion: namely, that when traditional religious authority is not felt by a man to be binding upon his conscience, then it is not possible to preach to him the Law and the Gospel as the same time. Well aware of the disasters created by preaching the Law only, ministers tends to say more about the Gospel. But in the long run this has the effect of undermining the Law itself, at least in so far as the Law must be spelled out as a specific guide to conduct. The last 50 years have witnessed most churches steadily liberalizing their views on divorce, softening their condemnation of many sexual practices, particularly homosexuality, and at the same time failing to provide a new formulation of the Law as it pertains to sex. No area of life is so neglected by specialists in Christian ethics as is sex. In no field have we done less to re-examine our basic assumptions, "Bible in one hand and newspaper on the other." The Quaker group calls for a "new morality" of sex. It affirms that "there must be a morality of some sort to govern sexual relations." It insists very cogently upon the social character of even the most private sexual acts. But it says nothing that might lead directly to the enunciation of the "new morality" for which it calls. The call had to be made, however, and I want now to add to it a few considerations that ought to be taken into account by Christian ethicists when they consider, as they must, the problem of sexual morality anew. The aim of the Quaker group is to pass beyond an insistence upon conformity to a code by urging that sexual relations, conformist or not, be brought into line with authentic selfhood. This is of course commendable, especially when so many people treat sex as a commodity. But I am convinced that it is insufficient and even highly misleading. It is at once too idealistic and too somber to fit the facts. An Impersonal Force Sex is a force that streams impersonally through nature. If we ask that this force be an expression of love, we must be aware of the several reality that are signified by this one English word. Love is not only responsibility and agape. It is also eros, which means desire. Sexual desire is not only desire of the "other" for the various kinds of beauty and good he, she or it may possess. It is also desire for self-gratification. The great power of sexual desire comes from the fact that it combines desire for the other with desire to gratify the self. If we are not speaking of this Janus-force we are not speaking of sex but of other things that are deemed good in association with it. No sexual ethic, including a Christian one, can be valid if it does not recognize the sex-force as a power in its own right and in both its other-directed and self-directed aspects. Whatever we say of the Church's time-honored view that marriage is a license for outlet of sexual passion (and the Quakers' report is adamant against it), at least it had the virtue of realism in regarding the sex-force as a given and not fully tamable fact of human nature. It is a mistake to assume that sex can be entirely personalized or, as a new book by a Protestant tells us, that is "is inseparable from the realization of one's humanity."* Sex is not essentially human, it is not inseparable from the human in us, and it cannot be fully humanized. It can be personified, as Aphrodite or Brigitte Bardot (I prefer Aphrodite), but these personifications have imaginative power because they represent as personal that which overrides personality. Did we not laugh when Thurber and White asked us, "Is sex necessary?" It is, indeed, from sexual humor that Christians have at present most to learn. We should distrust any pronouncement about sex, including the Quakers' report, that does not allow for the humorous side of the subject. Volumes of ostensibly Christian literature may in this way be swept from the shelves, with good riddance. Misplaced seriousness has wreaked more havoc on modern sexuality than all the films of Hollywood, most of which are themselves soddenly lugubrious as a "concession" to the pious. A return of ribaldry, now virtually absent from Broadway and Hollywood, would do much to clear the air. Laughter at sex is about the only way to put sex in its place, to assert one's humanity over against that impersonal, irrational, yet necessary force that turns even the best of men into caricatures of themselves. Not only "sinful" sex does this: lawful sex, safely within the limits of marriage and love, does it too, as everybody knows; and he who does not laugh about it must be humiliated by it. To be sure, there are various kinds of laughter. I hold no brief for snickering. Quite the opposite. A snicker is the unhappy result of a healthy impulse to laughter being partially suppressed by an unhealthy sense that laughter is forbidden. Also the giggle, which comes from embarrassment. What I proclaim is the Christian freedom to treat an impersonal aspect of creation lightly. What I deplore that that almost every book and article written on sex by a Christian leaves one with the feeling that sex must be a serious business. What has happened to our common sense? The Adolescent and the Disturbed Part of the answer may lie in the negative attitudes St. Paul seems to have had, part in the Church's long-held view that flesh belongs to sin. But I believe there is a simpler explanation closer to hand, especially as regards recent writing. It is that writers on sexual behavior tend to have in mind the needs of adolescents and other persons who are disturbed about their sex life. Laughter at sex comes naturally to the blessed, by which I mean young children and grown-up people, but not to the adolescent and the disturbed. To children the human body is neither a temple nor a prison; it is just odd, like the frog in the garden. The girl child's laughter at male physiognomy is no rejection of the body but simply a subordination of it to common sense. And her mother, if she has left adolescence behind her, will find the subject even funnier because she knows the sex act and all its disproportions. (Males usually do not find as much to laugh at; proud man does not like humor to cut him down to size.) In the whirlwinds of puberty the body becomes a serious matter. Loss of chastity looms up, longed for and feared, and even after that happens there is a long road to travel before those many adjustments are made that allow the sex life both to flower and to be separated from the centers of anxiety. While this is going on, laughter seems too cheap for sex--though by an assumed toughness the adolescent can invert his natural feelings. A special problem is therefore posed as to how one discusses sex with the adolescent and the disturbed. Telling a homosexual who is a potential suicide that his situation is comic is obviously not going to help him. That doesn't change the fact that this is actually what he most needs to know. Had Oscar Wilde considered his own emotions to be as humorous as he considered other things, he would not have gotten into all that trouble. Of course we wanted trouble; and the law, being as serious as he, obliged him. If Wilde lost his sense of humor at this point, at least one old lady maintained hers. Asked what she thought, she replied: "I don't care what they do, as long as they don't do it in the streets and frighten the horses." What we say to the adolescent and the disturbed is a pastoral question or, if you like, a question of therapeutic strategy. (Adolescence is a disease: if one is cured of it, he becomes immune.) The strategy will often be decided, as the Army says, "by the situation and the terrain." But this particular question is to be separated sharply from the problem of framing a basic Christian sexual ethic. The psychology of the adolescent and the disturbed cannot be normative. The adolescent is endemically romantic: he idealizes sex, sometimes inverting this idealism into scorn and fear. But Christianity should no more idealize sex than it should scorn or fear it. It sees sex as a fact of created nature. This natural force can no more be made fully "human" than can mountain goats or ocean currents. Like them it can, if accepted, be used by man for his own good within a life of faithfulness and praise. Only, however, if the mystique of sex, a holdover from paganism, is blanched away. For the idealization of sex is merely once face of the coin that shows on its other side the disparagement of sex. Among the topics in the Quakers' report that could be improved with the leaven of humor is homosexuality. Society regards homosexuality between consenting adults as a crime. Opposing this, the Quaker group sees it as tragedy or potentially as a serious and responsible sexual relation. Now a crime is certainly should not be. I would not deny that it can be a serious and responsible relation. But the matter cannot be left there, as the report leaves it. Let us go on to say that homosexuality is odd. All sex is odd, but homo-sex is odder than most. And funnier. The homosexual doesn't know what he's missing. Bigger joke: for emotional reasons, he can't know. The guy is trapped. The question now is: are we to take this trap as fate (bad), or destiny (potentially good) or as a devil of a predicament from which there might be a way out? The minute we opt for fate and/or destiny we play acolyte to the bogus rituals that surround homosexuality. There is a whole literature and psychology built on this, and it's just plain cockeyed. Psychiatry, as it sheds its doctrinaire determinism, is waking up to this fact. Since we are not to idealize heterosexuality, neither are we to acquiesce in the idealization of homosexuality. The first step to health is to remove from it the aura of forbidden (therefore exalted) mystery. And I submit that homosexuality brought fully into the light of day and stripped of its exotic defenses will appeal to only a fraction of the people now swept along by it. I do not mean to say that the ethical dilemmas of sex can be overcome by purely social and psychological means. Whatever we do to dispel by laughter and common sense the mystique of sex, whatever we do to make the statutes of the land more wise, there will always remain an area in which one's moral response is decisive and in which codification is necessary. But the area of decision-making will remain obscure as long as the laws and the prevalent attitudes of society are out of touch with human nature. Let us not try fully to humanize, let alone to sanctify, sex; but let us assert a human transcendence over it. Such a plea does not add up to a Christian ethic of sex. It only asks that specialists in ethics deal with sex at the thing it is and not as the bearer or either our salvation or our damnation. The Quakers did not make that mistake, but they were so serious in their approach that they come close. Sex is necessary, but it is not a necessity. _______________________________ *Roger Mehl, reviewing in Le Monde (May 29, 1963) Amour et Sexualite by Robert Grimm (Delachaux et Niestle: Neuchatel and Paris, 1962). Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Tom Driver review in Christianity & Crisis Description An account of the resource Tom F. 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Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Text Any textual data included in the document The Lancet March 2, 1963 The Quaker Pamphlet It is now commonplace that Western civilisation is almost destitute of generally accepted "values". The march of the sciences (occupied exclusively with the objective and demonstrable kinds of truth, doubtful of the existence of other kinds, and largely unconcerned with the consequences of their own discoveries), the shock of two devastating wars, and perhaps the passage of time have exploded or shaken down the accepted and established values of what could, at the turn of the century, still be called Christendom. The young must somehow find their way in a desert strewn with ruined shrines. In no province of life is their dilemma more obvious than in sexual relations and behaviour. The conventions and rules of conduct which did partly govern and determine sexual behaviour fifty years ago have crumbled with special thoroughness, because they were, in fact, little more than conventions floating in air without logical foundation in reason or belief. To set them up again is neither possible nor desirable. Yet anarchy will no do; and condemnations, taboos and lack of sympathy and of understand have been and are responsible for a vast amount of suffering and missed happiness, There is urgent need for enlightenment and reform both of public opinion and the law. All who are concerned about these things will welcome an informative and stimulating pamphlet by a group of Quakers who have been working on the subject individually and together for the past five years. The group's eleven members include men and women with experience in teaching, penology, marriage guidance, psychiatry, biology, psychology, and the law; three are medically qualified, and six are Elders in the Society of Friends. Their starting-point was the problem of helping and advising young Quaker students "faced with homosexual difficulties", but they soon found themselves compelled to explore and consider the whole subject of sexual relations and practices, homosexual and heterosexual, within marriage and without, in both sexes and with animals. The contents of the pamphlet correspond with its title, Towards a Quaker View of Sex. The many intricate problems raised are fairly stated, and when, as often, there are two sides, they are both presented. Conclusions are seldom dogmatic and often tentative, but on some fundamental points the group feels sure of its collective opinion. "We shall have reason to say that sexuality, looked at dispassionately, it neither good nor evil--it is a fact of nature, But looking at it as Christians we have felt impelled to state without reservation that it is a glorious gift of God." They "reject almost completely the traditional approach of the organised Christian church to morality with its supposition that it know precisely what is right and what is wrong." They make it clear that in their view the words "natural" and "unnatural" have no--or next to no--meaning when applied to sexual performances. Masturbation, homosexual practices, and even a kind of transvestism occur among animals as among men. They are empathetic that public opinion--and laws reflecting it--concern themselves too much with acts, too little with circumstances and motivation. They cannot condemn homosexuality or the acts springing from it as such. "Homosexual affection can be as selfless as heterosexual affection and therefore we cannot see that it is in some way morally worse." "At the same time members of this group have been depressed quite as much by the utter abandon of many homosexuals...as by the absurdity of the condemnation rained down upon the well behaved." They cannot agree that the words "I love you" should be spoken only when a permanent union in marriage is desired and is possible, and they have no dogmatic pronouncement to make about coitus before marriage. The group is at once well and widely informed, convinced about spiritual values, clear-headed, warm-hearted, not lacking humour, and candid to an unusual degree. To anyone concerned to promote humane and orderly thinking on this very difficult subject, or, it may be, to get their own thoughts clear, the pamphlet can be very strongly recommended. Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Lancet Review March 2, 1963 Description An account of the resource The report received exposure in the international medical community through this sympathetic review in the British journal, <em>The Lancet</em>, on 2 March 1963. Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived clipping in the HSC Quaker Group on Homosexuality records, Friend House, London https://www.exhibits.lgbtran.org/files/original/215b693082243ae3e3be120f0617af08.jpg 4a30ca6640507014a64894ade78ec61a Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource The Upstairs Lounge Fire Website A resource comprising of a web page or web pages and all related assets ( such as images, sound and video files, etc. ). URL http://www.delery-edwards.com/#!books/cnec Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource The Up Stairs Lounge Arson by Clayton Delery-Edwards Description An account of the resource Native Louisianan Clayton Delery-Edwards brings together his decades-long research into the tragedy into this new book. Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived McFarland Books https://www.exhibits.lgbtran.org/files/original/ab1ac18b5a9a9f0091a8693351574d3a.pdf b73c68a281b6e3b42e0abc103109a1a7 Text A resource consisting primarily of words for reading. Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Text Any textual data included in the document The Townswoman June, 1963 The National Union of Townswomen's Guilds Sex Becomes Respectable From the moment the earth was first inhabited sex has been a fact of life. In the Christian Era it has, however, been an unmentionable one in polite society, except in condemnatory context. Throughout nearly all its history the Church has treated the tale of Adam and Eve as historical fact on which logical arguments can be built; in spite of the fact that it was not Jesus who suggested that an event in the Garden of Eden should be described as the Fall of Man. It was Paul (Romans 5, verses 12-14) who originated the phrase that caused sexuality to become necessarily polluted with sin. It is therefore both refreshing and significant to find that en erudite cultured and sincere group of both sexes of a Christian Fellowship--the Society of Friends--has published an objective study of sex, hetero and homo. The Group which includes eminent educators, psychologists, psychiatrists, marriage guidance counsellers, a teacher in zoology and a barrister, was prompted by the concern over present day sexual problems and morals; by whether society merits the charge of hypocrisy in subscribing to a moral code it no longer accepts; by whether the insincerity of the moral code may be a cause of the widespread contempt of the younger generation for society's rule and prohibition. The 75-page document* that has emerged is the result of six years of study, discussion and reflection. When it was published in February sections of the Press seized upon it for what sensational headlines and quotations could be extracted from its frank survey of the subject of sex. The views of this Quaker group are worthy of serious consideration by all adult persons of whatever religious persuasion. This is not to suggest that the views of these Quakers should be so blindly or blithely accepted; only that it is timely for rethinking on the sexual facts of life and a recognition that sex and sin are not necessarily synonymous. The study makes the point that when one considers the universality of the sexual drive, understanding of its origins and manifestations is surprisingly small. "The repressive and inhibited outlook towards sex, whether heterosexual or homosexual, has invested its normal functions with guilt, mystery and ignorance...and has devalued the sexual currency to the levels of sensation and pornography." Again, "...sexuality looked at dispassionately, is neither good nor evil--it is a fact of nature...it is a glorious gift of God. Throughout the whole of living nature it makes possible an endless and fascinating variety of creatures, a lavishness, a beauty of form and colour surpassing all that could be imagined as necessary to survival." Although the Quaker does not say it in so many words, one of the difficulties in discussing sexual matters normally is that while English is one of the richest of languages it is deficient in conversational sex terms. The Greek had five words for different forms of love. English has the one, all-embracing word which, by being so, inevitably has suffered debasement. The choice in sexual terminology is either that old Anglo-Saxon and Elizabethan four-letter words now regarded as vulgar if not positively obscene, or chilling medico-Latin terms. For example, the Quaker study makes the point that the word "homosexuality" does not denote a course of conduct, but a state of affairs, the state of loving your own, not the opposite sex; it is a state of affairs in nature. Further, homosexuality has been observed in a wide range of animals and, the study says, is probably as common in women as it is in men. There has never been, anywhere, as far as is known, a law against homosexuality as such in any secular legal code. The law is not against one's feelings; but against acts resulting from them in the cases of males only. Every aspect of sexuality is honestly discussed in this Quaker document--adolescent sexual behaviour, pre-marital sex indulgence, triangular sex relationships (where a married person responds to a sexual attraction outside the marriage). But not in an effort to demolish morality; rather in recognition of the fact that a new morality is needed in order to lessen mental stress and enable people to find a constructive way through even the most difficult and unpredictable situation--a away that is not simply one of withdrawal and abnegation. A distorted Christianity, the Quaker study avers, must bear some of the blame for the sexual disorders of society. Anne Thomas *Towards a Quaker View of Sex, edited by Alastair Heron and published by the Friends Home Service Committee, Friends House, Euston Road, London N.W. 1. Price 3s 6d. Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource The Townswoman June 1963 Description An account of the resource The monthly news magazine of the National Union of Townswomen's Guilds published a sympathetic review in its June 1963 issue,. Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived clipping in HSC Quaker Group on Homosexuality records, Friends House, London https://www.exhibits.lgbtran.org/files/original/e38da7600bdd859f6d356b03be8d63a8.pdf 43e8a1530d010a1a067f28ee33cac7a8 Text A resource consisting primarily of words for reading. Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Text Any textual data included in the document The Times Literary Supplement Friday March 1 1963 Love and Morals Towards a Quaker View of Sex. 75pp. Friends Home Service Committee. 3s. 6d. These first gropings towards a current Quaker view of sex, formulated with worried care and often, we are told, with painful modification of previous assumptions, will in the main be readily acceptable to many liberally-minded Christians as to serious unbelievers. Central to the Quaker arguments, and worth repeating because still far from universally accepted, is the belief that "sexuality, looked at dispassionately, is neither good nor evil--it is a fact of nature" and, to the Christian, "a glorious gift of God". Morals, which "were made for man, not man for morals", are to be judged by their motives, their intentions and their fruits, and those attitudes, those kinds of behaviour are to be preferred which lead to understanding, compassion, warmth, friendship and love. In t his light, and in the light of some recent research, and also, it should be stressed, in the light of the Will of God of which understanding must constantly be sought, this Quaker group puts forward some tentative conclusions on some of the sexual problems that perplex our society today. Their intended readership, we must suppose, consists of intelligent (the approach is far from simpliste) Quakers (this is implicit) who may be called on to give guidance on these problems (professional help is described and useful addresses given) but who up to this point were singularly ignorant of them (the glossary defines such words as contraceptive, extramarital, intimacy, menstruation). In so far as such a readership exists, the booklet must be welcomed by all who are sympathetic to its general point of view. Since it is, unfortunately, still necessary to tell people that masturbation is almost universal and usually harmless, that seduction by older men is not likely to fix sexual attitudes in younger ones, and that the range of sexual behaviour considered normal and acceptable is almost infinitely variable, even inside different classes in our own community, then it is desirable that such information be given as often as possible, and especially that it should be given with the good-will and loving-kindness that characterize this booklet throughout. But it has faults. It is often muddle-headed and sometimes fails to see the fuller possible ramifications or implications of what is being said. Thus, the authors quote Dr. Sherwin Baily as saying, "I love you" should imply desire for a permanently shared life. This, they say, is unrealistic, since love may be felt where sharing is not possible, as in the cases of homosexuals and of those who love outside marriage. Some of us may realize that when these authors speak of love they mean or include agape, but they ignore what is now the common usage of love among many of those whom the booklet is meant to help. "She saw him across the room and felt a strange new thrill. This was love." Some such phrases are common in the conventional love-ethic of today, and a right gloss on the word would often be something like infatuation or lust or yen--necessary parts of full sexual love, but insufficient along to justify the use of the word love; and the ethic that accompanies this limited interpretation is that "love" of this kind is compulsive and that to deny it is betrayal. The authors do not apparently realize the extent to which they present a counter-ethic, or that usefully to do so demands understanding and discussion of the one that actually prevails. Often they lay themselves open to considerable misunderstanding, as, for instance, when they grant the frequent harmlessness of "light-hearted and loving casual contacts" or commend falling in love with a happily married women as "surely" helpful to "a nervous youngster". But a more serious charge is the disproportionate space given to one problem, homosexuality--sixteen out of forty-three pages of text proper--and the disregard of others now surely more important and serious in light of social health and individual happiness. Nothing whatsoever is said about problems of contraception and abortion in relation to the increase (which the authors initially stress as the most important current developments) of sexual relationship between adolescents and young people before marriage. Everyone who has to do with young people today knows to what a terrible extent these problems are real ones. The current informed guess at the figure of illegal abortions is 300 a day. What this means in terms of distress, danger, financial burdens, contempt for law can be regarded only with horror. One could surely have hoped that, at the least, such a booklet as this would have discussed moral approaches to these problems, at best would have considered whether contraception should be freely available to the unmarried and whether it was not urgently necessary that there should be an official inquiry into abortion. Certainly at any given moment some problems are "fashionable", others not, but the sincerity and deep sense of responsibility with which these Quakers imbue their booklet makes it a matter for regret that these urgent current problems should have been ignored. The Times Literary Supplement March 4, 1963. Dear Sir, You may be glad to have this review ofo ne of your recent books, which appeared in the Times Literar Supplement of March 1, 1963. May I take this opportunity of inviting you to use the Times Literary Supplement more regularly for advertising? I would be pleased to give rates and international circulation on request. Yours truly. Jerome Foster Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Times Literary Supplement, 1 March 1963 Description An account of the resource <em>The Times</em> published a mixed review in its Literary Supplement on March 1. The reviewer seemed to have misunderstood the intentions of the authors when criticizing the number of pages dealing with homosexuality. Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived clipping in HSC Quaker Group on Homosexuality records, Friends House, London https://www.exhibits.lgbtran.org/files/original/c2cfb6a2b3c21a38d84a4438d1adbc05.jpg 30e7aac36306b5a0dd1b4f4ee3b5e7fd Text A resource consisting primarily of words for reading. Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Text Any textual data included in the document Why I'm on the side of the Quakers by Monica Furlong In the past few days a group of Quakers, with all the courage for which the Friends are so famous, has created controversy by taking a look at personal relationships in our society and faithfully reporting what it saw. Which is that, whether we like it or not, the citizens of this country do not, for the most part, live by the traditional Christian ethic of absolute virginity before marriage and absolute fidelity afterwards. But, whereas at this point most Christian bodies in this country go off into pious tutting instead of serious thinking, the Quakers have taken the opportunity not only to ask whether the moral breakdown may mean t hat our morals are unrealistic, but also to ask what our morality is for. Is it merely there to keep up a comfortable and respectable facade, or is it (and this is the point where it touches Christianity) to give men lives more abundantly full of happiness and love? Is there not a frightful danger of making morals ends in themselves when we should be realising that they are merely guiding lines, lines to remind us of the degrees of love we owe to our married partners, our children, our fellow men and women, and our neighbours? The Quakers are, of course, going to be accused of naivety as well as of far worse things, so this is the time to recognise the true value of what they have been saying. They are asking us to reject traditional Christian morality not because it sets us too high a standard but because its standard is not high enough. The fear Looking around them, the writers see homosexuals obliged to lead furtive and frightened lives: they see married couples who relationship has become a bitter, sterile thing. They see young people who, when they obey conventional Christian morals, do so more from fear--fear of pregnancy, disease or of sex itself--than out of love for their fellows. The Quakers are not suggesting we should sweep traditions away in order to indulge in orgy and promiscuity. On the contrary, they are demanding a standard infinitely higher than the orthodox view demands. They are begging us to forget about what is "done," and instead to train ourselves and our children to behave with love and responsibility in every sort of personal relationship. Such an attitude might mean that young people sometimes had affairs, but it would discourage the flippant and callous kind of promiscuity which is the real enemy of joyful living. It might mean that husbands and wives sometimes admitted to one another that they were "in love" with someone outside the marriage, but it would also mean that they made much more resolute attempts to resolve their marital problems. It would certainly be an end of the kind of squalid intrigue or the heartless "going off with someone else" which is he real enemy of marriage. These recommendations might mean that homosexuals began to live as openly together as heterosexuals do. The courage It would be a merciful release from the pitiful half-life of the public lavatory, the court, and the prison which is one of the ugliest indictments of our community. Those who complain, as many are already doing, that the Quakers are wanting to do away with all "restraints" can know nothing of the true nature of love. Where a legalistic morality asks us to one mile, a genuine love or those around us makes us go two. It takes real courage and energy for a marriage couple to resolve their difficulties as they go along instead of sinking into apathetic indifference. It takes real restraint for young men and women to behave lovingly towards one another when, as always, there is a strong bias towards selfishness and lust. But then it is this kind of courage and love that Christianity is about. If we deny that it is possible for men and women to live good, happy lives when controlled by love rather than by fear and regulations, then we are denying Christianity itself. When questioned on television about their report, two of the Quakers were asked whether they did not make the mistake of assuming that everyone come from a good, loving home where responsible relationships are taken for granted. Their reply cut to the heart of the matter. The need They pointed out that me and women who have not been brought up in a loving atmosphere fall below moral standards in any case. Having been so badly damaged in childhood, they can make little sense of conventional morals, and will spread pain and lovelessness around. The people who do make sense of morals are precisely those who have been brought up with love: and it is these people anyway who keep the moral laws not from a blind sense of legality or respectability but because good morals are for them the proper expression of love. It would seem, therefore, that what we must emphasise if we want people to live with goodness is not their need for morals but their need for love. Or, as Professor Carstairs would say, not chastity but charity. Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Monica Furlong in Daily Mail Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived clipping in Personal Papers of Anna Bidder, Lucy Cavendish College Archive Description An account of the resource A few days after mentioning the report in the 18 February <em>Daily Mail</em> (above), religious columnist Monica Furlong used TQVOS as a basis for a stirring challenge to social and Christian morals (date unknown). https://www.exhibits.lgbtran.org/files/original/d7eb8d5dc204c536e84a048622c2965e.pdf d6e203bd377c3f6b301305181de380b5 Text A resource consisting primarily of words for reading. Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Towards a Quaker View of Sex, 1963 Description An account of the resource The original 1963 edition of the TQVOS pamphlet https://www.exhibits.lgbtran.org/files/original/d1f3d5b7611e4640a2e64b38349bce8d.pdf e1fad98e1bd00ef08133782350ca0af8 Text A resource consisting primarily of words for reading. Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Text Any textual data included in the document The Tablet February 23, 1963 Compassion Is Not Enough The fact that all too often detestation of the sin (which is entirely justified and laudable) leads Christians into undue harshness towards the sinner seems to have led the Quakers authors of Towards a Quaker View of Sex (Friends Home Service Committee, 3s. 6d.) into a blurring of moral categories which can only be deplored in our present post-Christian society where young people, particularly, are left to work out their sexual morals for themselves. There are already sufficient forces at work to persuade people that traditional Christian sexual morality represents at best an ideal impossible of attainment, and it is to be feared that this pamphlet, contrary to its authors' intentions, may serve to reinforce these forces, particularly among those who learn of it at second hand. With much that is said by the contributors to this pamphlet many Christians can agree. Their starting point would seem to be an intense and entirely praiseworthy compassion for the acute suffering caused by tragic sexual experience and for the unnecessary misery that can arise from too rigid an adherence to the letter, rather than the spirit, of the Christian moral law. They recognise that human love-making is good in itself and is meant to be enjoyed and are concerned to banish the kind of Manichaean attitude that would regard human sexuality are irretrievably evil in itself and marriage as essentially an outlet for an evil urge which cannot be totally suppressed. They feel great sympathy for homosexuals, from whom our present society demands, in a purely secular context, a level of heroic virtue which it in no way asks of the heterosexual majority, although the Church, of course, does demand some degree of heroic virtue in this respect from all its members, whether heterosexual or homosexual. What above all concerns authors of this report (which, of course, is not in any way a policy statement of the Religious Society of Friends but merely one particular Quaker view of sex as seen by one particular group of Friends) is how the Christian should act when faced with his neighbour's sexual difficulties, rather than how the Christian himself should act when faced with his own sexual difficulties; and this is where the pamphlet may give a wrong impression, in that it is concerned with the objective judging of other people's actions (when charity demands that they should be given the benefit of the doubt) rather than arriving at an objective judgment of one's own behaviour. The compassion with which the authors handle pre-marital and extra-marital love-affairs may give rise, in the minds of hasty readers of their pamphlet, to the conclusion that they are condoning such behaviour, when what they are trying to do is to ask their fellow-men not to usurp the place of God in judging it. Above all they give the impression not so much of tempering justice with mercy as of leaving justice out of account altogether; and it is here that three factors arise which they seem largely to have ignored and which give rise to doubts about the validity of some of their conclusions. One factor is the basis of the defence of traditional Christian morality on sex in the natural law: the fact that human love-making normally results in the birth of a child. In these days, when artificial methods of birth-control are so much taken for granted, this point is apt to be obscured; but it is for this reason that love-making, by implying the family, implies also marriage and the stability and sanctity of marriage, since there is nothing worse for the children than the spectacle of their parents not united by that bond of love which ought to be the basis of every marriage, let alone their parents' divorce and remarriage. While the fact remains that love-making outside marriage need not (and should not) affect the stability of marriage (in the same way as, for example, St. Peters' triple denial of Our Lord did not affect his devotion to Him), it does involved a depreciation of this unique expression of human love. Human love-making involves (or should involve) the total giving of one self to another in a way that necessarily excludes all others, and the uniqueness of this relationship is protected by the institution of the sacrament of marriage, life-long and indissoluble. The second factor of the importance of the vocation of chastity, in which the uniqueness and value of human love is recognised by voluntarily making over and sacrificing this gift to God. The authors of the pamphlet give the impression--we hope it is unintended--of regarding life-long chastity as an impossible ideal; and, of course, regarded from a purely human point of view, it is. But, like the achievement of Christian marriage, its fulfilment depends upon grace and upon a humble recognition of one's need for grace to achieve something that would be impossible for human nature unaided. Chastity and marriage need to be regarded as the twin channels into which the powerful drive of human sexuality must be directed if it is to be truly creative and not leave a trail of destruction in its wake. Where the difficulties arise is not so much with those--mainly priests and religious--who embrace the vocation of chastity of their own free will, but with those for whom the discovery that chastity is, after all, their vocation is a painful process of learning: the men and women who, however eligible they may seem, somehow fail to get married, and above all the homosexuals who, by their very nature, are shut out from the vocation of marriage. And this brings us to the third factor: compassion for the plight of homosexuals in our present society seems to have led the authors of this pamphlet into a condonation of the physical expression of homosexual love, given circumstances analogous to those which make the physical expression of heterosexual love good for the Christian. Their attitude here would seem to depend partly on the first factor, that of ignoring the procreative element in human love, which is the basis for the condemnation of homosexual behaviour in the natural law. Even those who share their compassion for the homosexual and who share (as we do not) their feeling that the present legal position only adds to the homosexual's difficulties without making it any easier for him to come to terms with his situation, while at the same time encouraging blackmail, must see that here is a radical departure from traditional Christian morality. In general, we can agree with this group of Quakers when they condemn the doing of the right thing for the wrong reasons, when they point out that a situation which, form the outside, appears to be blameless may in fact be more blameworthy than another situation which, objectively speaking, is gravely sinful. The disagreement arises when it comes to a question of drawing lines between what is right and what is wrong, when we have to point out that a certain kind of behaviour is sinful, however understandable and excusable it may be in particular circumstances, and however undeserving of censure may be the people actually involved in it. Where a reading of this pamphlet, whatever its deficiencies of judgment, can be salutary for us is in reminding us of the dangers of a legalistic approach and of the letter that killeth rather than the spirit than (sic) quickeneth. Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Tablet Review, 23 February 1963 Description An account of the resource The Tablet, an independent Catholic weekly news journal, lauds the group's intentions but criticizes its conclusions in its review. Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived clipping in HSC Quaker Group on Homosexuality records, Friends House, London https://www.exhibits.lgbtran.org/files/original/f4370cc2bc15b95fa917a6ac97893aa5.jpg 5cd3ba5cfee3ac8ec8a68207fb22f398 Text A resource consisting primarily of words for reading. Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Text Any textual data included in the document Daily Mail February 18, 1963 Quaker's views on love and marriage by Daily Mail Reporter Two Quakers who helped to prepare the most outspoken Church report on sex ever published said on TV last night that the fact that a husband or wife had a love affair should not mean the end of their marriage. The triangle situation would end with the "enrichment" of the marriage, said one--Dr. Anna Bidder, a spinster, who teaches zoology at Cambridge University. The two Quakers--the other was Mr. Kenneth Barnes, head of Wennington co-education school at Wetherby, Yorkshire--were appearing in the B.B.C. religious series, Meeting Point. They were questioned by Mr. Paul Ferris about a report called Towards a Quaker View of Sex--published today--drawn up by an investigation team of 11 Quakers. The report says there has been a great increased in sexual relations among adolescents, and that relations before marriage have become common even among people with high standards of conduct. It urges a completely new Christian approach to the problem--and says the investigation team rejected "almost completely" the traditional Church approach, with its supposition that it knows precisely what is right and what is wrong. Mr. Ferris said of the report: "It is very controversial, very outspoken and no doubt it will shock some people." Enriched He questioned them about their attitude to an "affair" during marriage. Dr. Bidder said: "People tend to think it is the end. We say that if people approach the situation in sincerity and confidence and determination the marriage can be strengthened and enriched--and the third party can be enriched by having come through a difficult situation." She emphasised: "Whatever happens, we are 100 p.c. concerned with the sanctity and wonder of marriage." Mr. Ferris asked: How far should young people go before marriage? Should they sleep together? Dr. Bidder said she did not think the question should be put that way. "I should want them to think in terms of neighbourliness not only to the person concerned, but to the other people round them." Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Daily Mail, 18 Feb 1963 Description An account of the resource The <em>Daily Mail</em> published this account of Bidder and Barnes on the Meeting Point programme. Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived clipping in Personal Papers of Anna Bidder, Lucy Cavendish College Archive https://www.exhibits.lgbtran.org/files/original/5c05682e845ab51b6b975538a2cf5478.jpg c697d8c16e70be217420f45b89f2671d https://www.exhibits.lgbtran.org/files/original/506efc85944f9efd5d396ba49d291e08.jpg 4fa3d36d669f16d4709d26a5fdc774be Text A resource consisting primarily of words for reading. Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Text Any textual data included in the document Washington Post February 18, 1963 Quaker Group Urges Sex Enlightenment LONDON, Feb. 18 (Monday) A group of Quakers today called for a more enlightened approach to sexual relationships, including homosexuality. The 11-member group, including two psychiatrists and two school headmasters, said there was yet not definite answer to such questions as "whether homosexual contacts are really 'unnatural' or repulsive, whether pre-marital intercourse is necessarily a bad preparation for marriage, whether to have a variety of sexual partners does, in fact, weaken intimate relations and destroy a community." Their report, "Towards a Quaker View of Sex," was not representative of the views of all Quakers, they said. The report said that sexual relationships have such profound effect on the community that they cannot be left wholly to private judgment. There must be a governing morality of some sort, the report declared. But, in noting a great increase in adolescent sex relations and in pre-marital sex generally, the report said: "It must be accepted that light-hearted and loving casual contacts can be known without profound damage or 'moral degeneracy' being the result in either partner." On homosexuality it said: "One should no more deplore homosexuality than left-handedness, though one can condemn and prohibit specific acts." The authors reject "almost completely" the traditional Christian approach to morality with its rigid definitions of right and wrong. "Where there is genuine tenderness, an openness to responsibility and the seed of commitment, God is surely not shut out," the said. Washington Daily News February 18, 1963 'Where There's Genuine Tenderness' Quakers O.K. Casual Sex London, Feb. 18--An 11-member Quaker study group, including two psychiatrists and two school headmasters, today declared there are no definite answers to such questions as 'whether homosexual contacts are really 'unnatural' or repulsive, whether pre-marital intercourse is necessarily a bad preparation for marriage, and whether having a variety of sexual partners does, in fact, weaken intimate relations and destroy a community." The group, in a report entitled "Towards a Quaker View of Sex," called for a more enlightened approach to sexual relationships, altho members admitted their findings were not representative titled "Towards a Quaker in Britain or elsewhere. Noting a great increase in adolescent and pre-marital sexual relations, the report said: "It must be accepted that light-hearted and loving casual contacts can be known without profound damage or 'moral degernacy' bring the result in either partner. "One should no more deplore homosexuality than lefthandedness," the report went on, "tho one can condemn and prohibit specific acts. Where there is genuine tendernesss, an openness to responsibility and the seend of the commitment, God is surely not shut out." The report rejected "almost completely" the traditional approach to Christian morality "with its rigid definitions of right and wrong." But it also declared sex relationships have so profound an effect on the community they cannot be left to private judgments, asserting there must be "a governing morality of some sort." Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Washington papers, February 18, 1963 Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived clippings in the Personal Papers of Anna Bidder, Lucy Cavendish College Archive Description An account of the resource <em>The Washington Post</em> and <em>The Washington Daily New</em>s (afternoon paper) printed similar accounts on the day the report was released; although the <em>Daily News</em> used a provocative headline.